[ti][happy][/ti]Decisions you're glad you made in life?

[Zenlethic]

I previously made a thread about decisions you made in your life that you regret, but this one is about decisions you made that you are glad that you made. For me:

1. Leaving my former job that I was on for 8 years, because while I DID learn a lot working there, they were determined to make sure I'd never make progress there. I got promoted after 3 MONTHS at my current job, which really made me realize this about my former job.

2. Deciding to watch streams and participate in some of their chats in 2017. I went dormant with it for a couple of years in between then and now, but since I've struggled with socializing in the past, that has helped me a lot.

3. Agreeing to join my town's community Kiwanis group in 2014. That has helped me with my goal of expanding my social circle, as well as becoming more familiar with the work that is required to run our town festival stand.

[Georgia V]

Dumping my ex when I was 17

[Dawn]

Good thread

Telling one of ex friends to do one and shes a bare faced liar , im not a person to normally do that but i got so fed up of her constant lies , i believe in second chances but christ i think she had 4 .. I felt so much better for it .. Shes not spoke to me since and never apologised lol and thats 5 years ago

[Maddy]

Gonna be lazy and just copy what I put on S4E

In August 2017, my sister died in a car crash. I was doing year 11 (not sure of the equivalent everywhere else but basically my 2nd last year before finishing high school), I was ready to give up but I couldn't, I finished the year and then went onto finishing year 12 the following year and graduating easily. My sister definitely got me through that year. I wanted to make her proud. Grades seen me easily qualify for University but I took a gap year in 2019.

Jordan and I now own 2 businesses and once I'm 100% well enough, I hope to do physio. Accidentally fell pregnant in early 2021, we had Mia in October of that year and I'm glad I made all the decisions I've mentioned here.

[Georgia V]

To quit weed

[Zenlethic]

Good idea to move to the S4E section, since I made this thread there also.

But another decision I'm glad I made occurred in the last month. The Supervisor position became available for my current workplace, but I decided not to go for it since my boss would likely not bring anyone in to fill my former position. By me staying in this position, and them hiring someone else to be Supervisor, the company is better off and we have a healthier work crew.

[Melcharge]

Some of the most important decisions I've made:

- Dropping out of high school in 2011. I was 17 and still in ninth grade. I was having severe mental heath issues -- 2011 and 2012 were when I experienced the worst of my psychosis -- and school was making it worse, not better. When I asked for help at school, I was sent back to class and nothing was done. I guess you could say I dropped out to focus on my mental health.

- Deciding I needed help. I went into therapy in October 2011.I still see the same therapist to this day, though he's thinking of retiring soon.

- Going into the psych ward of a local hospital in late 2012. I was NOT handling my psychosis well on my own, at that point wasn't even on meds for it, and wasn't taking care of myself. Three hospitalizations later and a short stay at a group home (one week), I was on my way to doing better. My most recent hospitalization was almost exactly ten years ago, in late June/early July 2013.

- Deciding to focus more on my writing and get better at it.

- Dumping the horrible, manipulative, possibly catfishing guy I had "been with" for eleven years, from 2010 to 2021. We only knew each other through text (but not text message, because he refused to give me his phone number; we talked through email, with an email address that had his forum username and probably wasn't his main one). He showed me maybe four pictures of himself over the time we were "together" and the most recent one was from 2014. He never gave a clear reason why he wouldn't send more. He promised for years that we'd meet up in person and live together, but that never happened. He refused a plane ticket from my dad to come visit. He never told his family, or anyone he knew, about me, and told me to not tell anyone I was in a relationship with him. He told me almost nothing about himself or his life even though I shared everything with him. By the end he only emailed me once or twice a day, those emails were all the time we spent together, and most of his replies were three words long or less; often "Yes" or "No" would be all I heard from him for days. When I broke up with him, he got angry with me (the first emotion I'd seen from him in forever) and attacked the things I had told him I hated about myself. And telling me, among other things, "Grow a ****ing backbone", "All you do is level complaints at me and moan" and "All you care about is writing and getting your way". And this isn't even scratching the surface of what "being with him" was like.

- And, of course, saying "yes" to my fiancé, who is the complete opposite of the guy I dumped!

to get married, to have children, to want to keep my marriage and family.

[jodie]

To join FJ

I'm happy I can endure onions. I guess they're good for you.